Nollywood star Mary Njoku has sparked deep reflection online with a powerful message about the true meaning of encouragement. In a heartfelt Instagram post, the actress cautioned against pressuring people with well-meaning words that may actually cause emotional harm.
She explained that urging someone to do what they sincerely believe they can’t might not be the motivation you think it is—it could feel like guilt, failure, or even lead to depression.
“Sometimes telling someone they can do what they deeply believe they can’t isn’t encouragement, it’s pressure,” Njoku wrote. “If you say you can, then you can. If you say you can’t, then you can’t—and that’s okay.”
Her message is a reminder to respect self-awareness and mental health, encouraging people to listen more and advise less.